When Love Ends, You Begin: The Breakup That Broke Me Open

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You know that moment when you wake up and, for a split second, you forget they’re gone?

And then it hits you. All over again. Like a wave you can’t outrun.

The empty side of the bed. The silence where their laugh­ter used to be. The phan­tom vibra­tion of your phone that you swear was them tex­ting… but it never is.

Maybe you’ve replayed the last con­ver­sa­tion a thou­sand times. Maybe you’ve scrolled through old pho­tos at 3 AM, won­der­ing where it all went wrong. Maybe you’ve checked their social media even though you know it only makes the ache worse.

If you’re read­ing this, you don’t need me to tell you that breakups hurt. You’re liv­ing it. You already know that some morn­ings, just get­ting out of bed feels like climb­ing a mountain.

But here’s what I wish some­one had told me when I was where you are now:

That pain you’re feel­ing? It’s not the end of your story. It’s the begin­ning of your transformation.

I’m not going to lie to you and say this will be easy. I’m not going to tell you that you’ll “get over it” in 30 days or that you just need to “stay pos­i­tive.” That’s spir­i­tual bypass­ing, and you deserve bet­ter than toxic positivity.

What I will tell you is this: the per­son you’re becom­ing on the other side of this heart­break is some­one you haven’t even met yet. And they’re extraordinary.

A year ago, I went through the worst breakup of my life. The kind that doesn’t just hurt — it shat­ters you. The kind that makes you ques­tion every­thing you thought you knew about love, about your­self, about your worth.

I tried every­thing. Ther­apy. Jour­nal­ing. Med­i­ta­tion. Keep­ing busy. Stay­ing still. Some things helped a lit­tle. Most things didn’t. I felt stuck in a loop of pain that I couldn’t escape.

Until I found a tool that finally helped me under­stand what was really hap­pen­ing beneath the sur­face of my heart­break — and how to trans­mute that pain into the most pow­er­ful self-love I’d ever experienced.

I wanted to share a video from Mel Rob­bins that breaks down exactly what helped me move from com­pletely bro­ken to com­pletely whole again. Not just “over” my ex, but gen­uinely grate­ful for what they taught me.

Watch it below. And if it res­onates, I hope it serves you the way it served me.

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If you found this video, it’s not an acci­dent. You com­mented “BREAKUP” on my Insta­gram because some part of you is ready to trans­form this pain into pur­pose. The uni­verse is redi­rect­ing you — not pun­ish­ing you. And on the other side of this heal­ing jour­ney is a ver­sion of you who loves your­self so deeply that you become a mag­net for the love you’ve always deserved.

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